Monday, May 21, 2012

Friends and Family LETTER

The following is a letter I sent out to after our fresh IVF and again with our FET.  I got a lot of positive feedback and feel like it was well received.  Hopefully, someone else can use it too...

Good morning friends and family!

I’d like to start off by saying THANK YOU for your prayers, thoughtfulness and encouragement throughout my on-going battle with infertility.  This is by far the toughest thing I’ve dealt with in my short 30 years.  I’m blessed to be surrounded by people that are so caring and supportive. 

We all know how cycles work and that I’ll soon be finding out if these little guys are going to stick it out for the long-haul.  And that’s where my request comes in: I want the opportunity to announce my (potential) pregnancy in a fun way at a safe time.  Please do not ask me questions about whether or not I’m pregnant.  If I am, that’s not how I’ll want you to find out.  If’ I’m not, your question may be unintentionally hurtful. 

The good news?  God is in control.  I have to remind myself of that minute-by-minute.  I ask that you continue to pray for me.  Please pray for hope, peace…and ultimately a safe, healthy pregnancy. 

Again, thank you for protecting me and allowing me to begin to feel “normal” throughout what has been a very difficult, abnormal process.

All my love,  

12 comments:

  1. What a wonderful letter. Love it.

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  2. This is great. I don't know what I am going to do about the same subject. I made a separate FB page for my ivf stuff, but there are a few family members on there too. So I am not sure how I will do it once I start testing. I know it will be hard not to say anything on there, because I will want to, but I also don't know if I want everyone to know before at least the heartbeat ultrasound. Ugh.... I love your approach.

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  3. Good luck! (here from ICLW)

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  4. That is a great letter! We didn't really tell many about our FET so an e-mail was never sent out but I think that this is a really considerate and thoughtful way to cover your bases with your friends and family.

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  5. Great idea... beautiful letter :) Thinking of you xoxo

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  6. Happy ICLW! What a great letter! Congratulations on your betas! Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months!

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  7. I like the letter! How did everyone respond to the letter?

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    1. Thanks, Kelly! It went over really well. Everyone was respectful. A few people apologized (for asking questions in the past) and others just complimented me and said it was well written. I spent over an hour writing and editing it, but in the end, I think I conveyed exactly what I meant to.

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  8. Hello - just stumbled across your blog and wanted to say that I love your idea of this letter. We felt like we had to tell those who knew about (and had likely helped in one way or another with) our IVF cycle as soon as we got the news, which was way earlier than we would have liked. Congrats to you and best of luck! P.S. I'm about 3 days behind you - turned 6 weeks on Sunday :)

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  9. What a great letter! Thanks for sharing it! Happy ICLW!

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  10. thanks for sharing this! My husband and I have gone through two failed iui's and two failed ivf's and each time we've been more and more generic with what we tell people. We've felt far to much pressure to let people know where we are in our cycle and wanting to know when we find out. I may use this in the future. and congratulations on your twins!!!

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